society pressures

I have noticed lately that there is starting to be a seperation between my daughters whom I homeschool and the daughter that goes to public school. My children who stay home with me, have really stopped worrying about what they wear. (In fact I sometimes have to force them out of their pajamas before they start school.) And my daughter who spends at least an hour in the bathroom a day to primp herself. She has also started using the word "popular" excessively. Like " ...she is popular" " ....that is not popular". It has slowly been evolving. Last week I was informed that barbies and ponies, were now "boring" and she never wanted to play with them again. Where as my other two girls were very excited to receive her castoffs and have played many hours with them thus far. I know you are saying " well she is just growing up...." or "that is just her...." Now I would agree to a point, yes we all grow out of our childish behaviours, and eventually cast aside our toys and dolls, that happens. I am just questioning why now, when only two months ago she played with them everyday for hours, wouldnt let anyone near them, now to be told she "never" wants to play with them. I am feeling it is the societies pressure on children, especially in those middle school years. Where girls are told to "grow up" , "you are almost an adult". And to some degree I agree actually with that. Preteens, are often spoiled brats who whine like babies and sit around watching tv and playing video games for hours upon hours. We tend to coddle them, and then in a few years are shocked that they arent anywhere close to fully functioning on their own. What saddens me though, is that children feel such a need to fit in, that they throw away things that they enjoy and actually have fun doing. Jessica has always been the girly girl. She likes girly things, she loves to accessorize, and loves new clothes. I appreciate that about her, she is fun to shop with. I just feel sad that she feels pressure to fit in and be "cool", where as my daughters arent feeling that sort of pressure during their days. I want to say "you dont have to grow up yet." "Mom is still here to care for you!!" My kids need to stop growing that is all I have to say. :)